In every relationship, from acquaintance to life partner, there is an energy that is produced which determines how the relationship is categorized.

It is the one ingredient that is always present but varies in degree according to the vibration that is emitted. This energy greatly affects the progression, quality and depth of each relationship and is the one thing that empowers the relationship to the level of intimacy; this is the power of connection.

I think we all can agree that with each encounter the vibration is unique. Sometimes we feel a strong pull luring us to an individual that is, at the time, unexplained. Other times it’s a gentle nudge, a strange ‘don’t I know you’ feeling or on the contrary a feeling of being repulsed, uncomfortable or simply freaked out.

Each individual brings with them a personality that either evolves into a positive or negative connection, which results in whether or not a foundation is laid for a meaningful relationship. It’s at these beginning stages of encounter that paying attention to our own discernment is crucial because discernment is most receptive to the underlying vibe and a trustworthy indicator of the level of connection present.

With this being said, it is plain to see that not all relationships are desirable. No matter how hard we try to make something work, it simply does not if the connection is not a genuine one with a mutual and equal exchange. Perhaps this could be a primary reason why so many relationships end with discord. I’m certainly not indicating that relationships don’t have their disagreements, but what I am saying is that if we try to force a square peg into a round hole chances are it is not going to fit. A key component in every relationship is connection; understanding the connection that exists is key to optimizing that relationship. This, in my opinion, is one of the greatest detriments faced in relationships.

Now, let us view the value of connection specifically in regard to romantic relationships. We all know that relationships take work. The questions then become: how much work are you willing to put in? How much sacrifice are you willing to make? How much of who you really are do you need to suppress or change? And, Finally, how long do you think you can portray yourself as someone you are not? Every relationship requires compromise at some point, but, how much of yourself are you willing to compromise? This is where ‘genuine’ comes in. Connection is as genuine as we make it.

Let us take a closer look at the definitions according to Webster’s Dictionary:

• Connection: to join, link or fasten together; unite or bind.

• Genuine: possessing the claimed or attributed character, quality or origin; not counterfeit; authentic; real; free from pretense or hypocrisy; sincere.

It serves no purpose to engage in a meaningful relationship that is based on false pretenses, especially if that relationship is one that is supposed to last. Being honest with yourself on the validity of connection simply saves so much time and energy, not just yours but, also for those involved with you as well.

Trust your discernment from the onset; do not force something to be present that is not; do not compromise in areas you will be unable to adhere to; and, categorize your relationships understanding the value and depth of the connection.

A genuine relationship is a beautiful thing to be a part of. This being the desire, you can certainly see why the power of connection in every aspect is so important to explore from the beginning of every relationship.

Abundance is yours ~ Bernadette Di Gabriele